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this boy is 22 year of age and has been a submissive for almost two years now ((including online time frame)) i have been interested in the lifestyle since 18 but when i did do some research about it towards the beginning i have been doing things that are in the bdsm lifestyle with out realizing it since about 9-10 years old nothing severe but like bondage etc. any way sorry got off topic since this boy has been with his Mistress as of 4/24/2012 W/we are now engage as of 6/26/2012 and W/we are getting married on 9/28/2013 just thought i would share. also i am glad to see another happy D/s couple in the world hope Y/your relationship lasts for the res of Y/your lives and beyond. have a wonderful day ^.^ sincerely kolbi rayne
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Recently is was contacted by a Dom Mistress who read my profile on a popular adult affair site. My profile listed a few fetishes and fantasies I have but I did not claim to be involved in the bdsm lifestyle. She said to contact her if I was interested in being trained as a slave and exploring my particular fetishes further. I am totally new to bdsm so pardon me if any of my terms are incorrect. At any rate I emailed her and she emailed back with a picture of her. The picture was of a stunning woman and kind of reminded me of the pics you might see in a phony profile. But then again, maybe its real. So I responded with sort of a “wow, so this is really you” kind of thing. I then wrote explicitly about my particular fetishes, and explained I am completely inexperienced in the bdsm world, but curious, now that she contacted me. She wrote back that she was disappointed I questioned the picture, but perhaps that was part of her role?
She then explained that in order to prove my commitment to begin training sessions, and before we would meet I would need to buy a bunch of bdsm gear which I found out amounts to about $900 and have it shipped to her prior to our first session. I had followed up with various questions trying to get a feel for how this would go down, whats expected of me, a few questions about her, would anyone else be present, does she have other slaves, does she use a contract, etc. i also said it would take a week or so to get that kind of cash to buy the gear. I also asked for additional pictures. She wrote back that she hates my procrastination but would wait to see if I purchase the gear, thereby proving my commitment to being trained by her. She said she would send pictures after I bought the gear and would explain more things about everything during our first session. Otherwise she has not seemed to explain much about herself other than saying she chose me because she feels that our fetishes are compatible. She even gave a physical mailing address where to send the gear and to use a specific online bdsm store who she says they know her. Sure enough I dropped her name and they knew her and even had the address she gave me on file.
Is this normal to be asked to drop $900 on a bunch of bondage gear, before meeting or knowing not a whole lot more about her than I said? She did tell me her age, height, shes not attached, no kids, got into bdsm after a heartbreak
Etc.
So please give me some insight…
do I run from this or is this considered normal in the bdsm world? I half trust her at the moment. But I feel if I try to ask more questions she will just write how disappointed she is in me. My inclination is to walk away, but then my kinky brain is saying wait, this could be an experience you have dreaming of! Any insights will be greatly appreciated!
Anyone who requires you to perform a particular task to “prove” yourself does not have your best interest in mind. And the saying is true, “If it sounds too good to be true, it usually is”. So sorry to say this but it sounds like you should keep your distance. A D/s relationship is something that is built on trust and communication and not automatically out of fear and the need for approval. Find someone who is willing to take their time with you and teach you the ropes.
So, this Domme want you to spend money that can go to bills to buy toys that are mailed to her? That is strike 1. Strike 2 is saying that you are procrastinating by asking real questions that anyone is the lifestyle for real would ask. Strike 3 is here pushing you enough to ask what to do in this situation. Block her and ignore people like that.
Best thing is to find a local munch (non-fetish setting in publi8c) and see if they have a sponsor program to introduce you to people there. It can be unnerving the 1st time.
Do not be rushed into it. Find who you are and make sure you have a person you can build a relationship with based honesty, trust, communication and respect.
This Domme is no Domme I would ever serve.
Be safe and be smart.
Sincerely,
Cait
Thanks for the insight…walking away!
Cheers!
It could also be an outright scam as when I contacted the online store to inquire on the cost of the items, they said I would have to pay by other means other than credit card, i.e money gram or some method that would probably make it hard to trace….then after purchasing never hear from her again. So perhaps this “store” is in on somekind of scam whereby I send the moneygram, and they never even have to send the stuff. She gave me her address, I could easily drive there right now if I wanted too. Its an apartment building. Why would she give me her address but is not willing to send a few pictures? Because….she doesn’t live there and nothing was ever going to be mailed there anyway! And then if I was dumb enough to ho thru with it, wpuld I really want to bring this to the authorities? “Uh yeah honey, I didn’t tell you but I was gonna get trained as a slave by this female Dom and she scammed me, so I called the police and thats what this investigation is all about…whats for dinner, chicken or fish?” I feel stupid for even going as far as I did, now that I realize what this is probably all about!
No worries and I am glad you thought good enough and questioned enough of what was being asked. If a D-type tells you to do something and you have to question it something is wrong. That is why I say to find a local munch and go into this slowly. You thought enough to ask solid questions for a new person in the lifestyle so you seem to have a good head about you.
A lot of fakes out there. A lot of scammers and wankers as well. Go slow. preceed with caution and I myself never do online and if a prospective Domme or play partner asks about sex or refuses to meet at a coffee shop and a munch I avoid them.
Kink does not have to be about sex. I’m a domestic sub and one who doesn’t need a maids outfit to clean. There is something for everyone. Go slow and keep that head on you.
Sincerely,
Cait
How do you know it isn’t a crusty old guy in some third world country somewhere? Anyone can get hold of photos of beautiful women.
Way too many red flags here, from what you’ve told me. It’s got scammer written all over it. Ignore, ignore, ignore.