Question: “I need some advice. I have always been in control. I gave up that control to my Master/boyfriend and sometimes have a hard time letting it go. I can be a bit of a brat and I don’t want to disappoint him. What can I do to let go of the control?” Answer: Being […]
Since the start of ASI we’ve always suggested the first step to talking to your partner about BDSM is going over our BDSM checklist. It’s a great way to break the ice, introduce new ideas and begin an open discussion about your desires. Remember, our checklist will always be free. You’ll never be charged to […]
Written by Mistress Abode There are lots of reasons you are checking out this emergency post… Perhaps you are a sub who played real time with a Dom/me who was lousy at aftercare. Or you are a dominant or a switch who played with a sub who didn’t realize tops need aftercare as well. Perhaps […]
BDSM relationships are not easy, they are not simple and there is no “normal” dynamic. I’ve said before that there is no way to describe the ultimate BDSM relationship, however there are certain protocols that create a sound foundation for one. Without a majority of these, a D/s relationship can be chaotic, full of misunderstandings, […]
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Question: “I am new to the community and I have never been with a Dom male as a submissive, I have never been a sub nor have I had any experience with spankings, floggings, paddles, I fantasize about everything BDSM. A few things turn me on..How should I go about finding a Dom, and or […]
As someone who loves anal sex I am always surprised when someone tells me they’ve never tried it before. When I ask what was keeping them from giving it a try, fear of pain is usually the answer. Remember, just because a masochist might enjoy pain, that doesn’t mean we enjoy ALL kinds of pain. […]
by Tamar Kay Copyright©1995 You will often hear it said that the first and most important rule in B&D-S/M is that all things we do with each other must be safe, sane, and consensual. What does this mean? Ask any set of experienced players and you’ll get a different set of answers. Here’s mine.
Question:”I am a natural sub but my current bf kinda is too. I’ve asked him to be more Dominant but ‘so senstive and sweet hes tried some of the things I’ve told him I like but it’s like he’s scared to dominate me like I so wish he would. How can I help bring him […]
