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11Nov

Another Opinionated Post on Consent and BDSM

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: Abuse General BDSM Information
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The Jian Ghomeshi scandal has become unavoidable. It is literally everywhere on the internet, television and, of course, on the radio. If you’ve been living under a rock, here’s a timeline by Global News of accusations and evidence against the former radio show host. Since he was let go by CBC, the scandal has started […]

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30Oct

A Lesson in Betrayal and a Call for Support

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: Abuse ASI News General BDSM Information
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If you don’t know by know, at ASI we put a lot of emphasis on safety, especially when it comes to finally taking that step and opening yourself up to someone. Unfortunately, I’ve seen so many of my friends in the community hurt by the partners they have chosen, no matter how many resources or […]

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9Oct

BDSM Basics: Male Dominant Acid Test (A Guide for New Submissives)

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: Abuse BDSM Basics Beginner BDSM Information General BDSM Information
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The term ‘Acid Test’ is an old prospecting term. A powerful acid can dissolve most base metals in a matter of minutes. Gold however, will stand up to most acids. The ‘Acid Test’ was an easy way for people to make sure they had a real nugget of gold and not a lump of the […]

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20Sep

The ABC’s of Kink and Abuse

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: Abuse General BDSM Information Guest Posts
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The ABC’s of Kink and Abuse written by silverdreams Personal responsibility and obligation is a difficult topic to write about. It differs for each of us. Trying to find a balance between each individual’s personal responsibility and the obligation we owe to each other within a community is like walking a tightrope- focus too much […]

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10Sep

BDSM Basics: How to Find a Kinky Partner in 10 Steps

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: Abuse BDSM Basics Beginner BDSM Information General BDSM Information
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You’re probably expecting a super short list of easy-to-do tasks like “Sign up for FetLife” or “Wear more leather!”, but sorry to break it to you, finding a kinky partner is probably just as hard, if not harder, than finding a vanilla one. For one, finding a kinky partner means finding someone that shares your […]

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19Aug

Abusive Past

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: Abuse Fan Questions
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Question: “i’ve been a sub for a little over a year. my last Dom didn’t listen to the safety word or even when i said stop and didn’t give any aftercare. being a sub has opened a passionate side of me i thought would never appear but i’m afraid to get another bad Dom. if […]

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23Jul

How to Spot a Potential Abuser

Posted by: asubmissivesinitiative Categories: Abuse General BDSM Information
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Those red flags are there to expose an abuser if only we were trained to see them. You will read the list and think “Now why oh why didn’t I think of that!” This checklist is a general one, as well all know in the BDSM lifestyle, some of these signs are not that of […]

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28Apr

A Submissive’s Bill of Rights by Jade

Posted by: asubmissivesinitiative Categories: Abuse Beginner BDSM Information General BDSM Information Guest Posts
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A Submissive’s Bill of Rights You have the right to be treated with respect. Not only do you have this right, you have the right to demand it. Being submissive does not make you a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word “submissive” describes your nature and in no way diminishes […]

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