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10Apr

BDSM Basics: Daily Rules, Tasks and Assignments

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: BDSM Basics Beginner BDSM Information Dominance Submission
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I feel like daily tasks and assignments are an under-appreciated aspect of BDSM relationships. For many bottoms keeping a checklist or completing daily assignments is a great way to make sure we are staying on track and meeting our Tops’ standards, giving us a boost of confidence and allowing us to hone our submissive skills. […]

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22Feb

Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook Review

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: Beginner BDSM Information Reviews
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By Tequila Rose If you haven’t heard the name Michael Makai, then you’re either really, really new to the lifestyle or you’ve been living underneath a rock. Makai has made a huge splash in the lifestyle with his amazing books. Seriously, if you haven’t picked up one of his books, I highly suggest you do […]

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21Jan

Beyond the Collar

Posted by: Riley Categories: Beginner BDSM Information General BDSM Information Submission
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  Everywhere we look it’s easy to find resources and material on all different aspects of BDSM relationships-and the play involved within and outside of them. But what about the daily life beyond the collar? Understanding the everyday things involved with being a submissive or slave can help the relationship to reach its potential, and […]

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21Dec

The Queer Kink Guide To: Titles for Doms (or What do you call a non-gender-binary Dominant?)

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: Beginner BDSM Information Dominance Guest Posts
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  Written by queerkink.tumblr.com So, my partner and I do not use titles when we play together, but as pro-dommes we do both use titles professionally, and if you’re the sort of person who enjoys them, well then you should go straight ahead and use them. If you want to be called “El Super King” […]

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26Nov

Happy Spanksgiving!

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: Beginner BDSM Information General BDSM Information Reviews
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Saturday morning I woke up so nauseous with excitement and anxiety I honestly thought I would have to run to the bathroom at any moment. I walked around the house getting ready to leave for Spanksgiving in St. Louis holding my stomach and whining to Daddy “I am soooo nervous!” See, a few weeks ago […]

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13Sep

The Heart of Down Under

Posted by: Riley Categories: Beginner BDSM Information Interviews
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Mistress Karin is the Mistress and owner of Dungeons Down Under in Oklahoma, and the head of her poly family and household. Though she stays busy, she was kind enough to grant me time out of her hectic schedule to share some advice for those within the lifestyle and some of her experiences over the […]

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30Aug

Dungeons: Five Tips for First Timers

Posted by: Riley Categories: Beginner BDSM Information
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One of the most alluring parts of BDSM is the dungeon, the sacred spot where you can explore new ideas, play with your favorite toys, and connect with other kinky people just like you. It can be an overwhelming and nerve wracking experience, especially if it’s your first time. Because there isn’t a universal instruction […]

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30Jul

Understanding Sexual Fetishes And Paraphilias

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: Beginner BDSM Information Fetish Facts
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By Rosalyn Sternberg Originally Posted on the The Kinsey Institute™ According to a recent Psychology Today editorial, there’s no such thing as a fetish. Their reasoning? In an era of search terms and niche pornography, researchers find that most adult-website users demonstrate consistent, specific sexual preferences. Naturally, understandings of “normal human sexuality” are always in […]

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1Jun

8 Things Submissive Men Want From A Dominant Partner

Posted by: Jessica Cocker Categories: Beginner BDSM Information Guest Posts
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By maymay My friend over at Kink In Exile, has recently posted a fantastic list of 8 things dominant women want. The list is so spot-on that I think it is a must-read regardless of whether you are in or are looking for a kinky relationship or not—or even if you’re not even “into all […]

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